What would make the world a better place? Some might seek a political answer. But my answer would be GOOD PARENTING. “The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world” (William Ross Wallace). This “hand” includes both parents. Children need mothers whose highest priority is to be in the home fulltime (if at all possible) to teach, train, and lovingly minister to their young ones. Children need fathers who assume their divine stewardship to provide the necessities of life and teach their children correct principles. As parents provide a loving home environment, children will thrive and grow. The Lord has commanded parents to “bring up [their] children in light and truth” (D&C 93:40). This includes teaching them to understand the doctrines of faith in Jesus Christ, repentance, baptism, the gift of the Holy Ghost, and endure to the end. “Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, to teach them to love and serve one another, to observe the commandments of God and to be law-abiding citizens wherever they live” (https://www.lds.org/topics/family-proclamation?lang=eng).
When parenting our teenagers I used to ask myself: Am I doing enough to prepare them for the challenges ahead? Is our family prayer and scripture study making a difference, when their body language doesn’t always evidence it? Am I loving them unconditionally, teaching them effectively, laughing with them agreeably, and modeling behavior commendably? Consider this example of how our efforts really DO make a difference, even when we can’t measure them immediately from external cues. “People are like hyacinth bulbs. All we can do is make a good place for them to grow, but each person is responsible for doing his own growing in his own time” (Torey Hayden). Sometimes growth is a very silent thing, like what happens when we store hyacinth bulbs in the refrigerator waiting for the planting season. It doesn’t look like growth is taking place at all. Our children are like that. We can’t always tell growth is happening, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t. In fact, providing a milieu of respect, love, and learning in the home is the perfect soil for development. Silent, imperceptible growth is taking place deep inside which will one day unfold into lovely blossoms. Our children will learn from what they see in the examples around them, how much they feel our love, what they hear, and what they experience as we teach and model correct principles.
Do you remember learning to ride a bike? There were probably steadying hands from one who loved you until you were confident to do it by yourself. When you mastered this skill and successfully navigated your solo journey down the driveway, you probably exclaimed, “Wow-ee—this is the greatest day ever!” We could not have learned to ride a bike by having someone merely explain how it’s done. It was essential for us to get on the bike and experience it for ourselves, even with wobbles and maybe a fall or two in the process. Similarly, although we were taught principles and doctrines in pre-mortal life, we needed to come to earth in order to learn lessons by experience. But we are not left alone. Heavenly Father has provided tools for our journey to insure a safe return. He provided a Savior to atone for our wobbles and spills along the way. He provided the Holy Ghost to guide our decisions and protect us from physical and spiritual dangers. He preserved the scriptures to teach truth and keep us on the path leading Home. He nestled us into families who love, teach, and protect us. He provided living prophets to chart the way toward our heavenly goal. I am grateful for a loving Heavenly Father who provides continued stability, comfort, and assurance as I strive to follow Him. I want to exclaim at the end of my life, “Wow-ee—this was the greatest experience ever!”
What does this scripture mean to you? “For as [a man] thinketh in his heart, so is he” (Proverbs 23:7). We understand that thoughts are a constant part of our waking hours. Even though fleeting, they can influence us and will shape our character in some fashion. For those who are striving to improve their lives and follow the example of the Savior, here is a list of helpful tips from the New Era:
- Indulging in impure thoughts can lead to hard-to-break thought patterns. Reject a bad thought as soon as it comes into your mind, and it will be easier to do so the next time.
- Avoid watching, listening to, or reading any material that contains profanity, swearing, pornography, or other improper content.
- Make sure you choose your surroundings carefully and that your activities inspire good thoughts.
- Pray. The Lord can help you overcome any problem you have, including unclean thoughts.
- Your speech reflects your thoughts, so a pure mind will also help you to keep your language clean. Remove yourself from situations where people are gossiping or using profane or vulgar language.
- Keep your thoughts clean to help you stay morally clean. Unclean thoughts make giving in to temptation much easier.
Who are the unpaid volunteers who spend at least two days per week plus one full week of their vacation time each summer teaching boys to be prepared? Hats off to Boy Scout leaders who give a tremendous amount of time nurturing, teaching, and leading our impressionable young men. Our grandson is at camp this week with leaders who have sacrificed much in order to head into the hills with packs and supplies on their backs heavy enough for a mule—to train and tutor a group of energetic boys. These valiant leaders slog through mud and erect tents, sleep on rocky ground, and teach survival skills while exemplifying an upbeat and cheerful attitude. They train their scouts to perform a wide variety of skills. They model virtues of character. They responsibly protect their young charges. The boys look up to their leaders and want to be like them. As a father and grandfather of scouts, I place my beloved ones into their capable care. It is a comfort to know that these leaders are men of virtue and goodness. I never want this to change. As one who has been a Boy Scout, served as a leader, and supported the organization financially, I know something of the sacrifice and hard work that goes into making the scouting experience a benefit to young men. I have great appreciation for these unselfish leaders who teach and model what it means to be trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind, obedient, cheerful, thrifty, brave, clean, and reverent.
“Look unto the rock from whence ye are hewn” (Isaiah 51:1). What does this mean to you? When I think of the word, “hewn” I think of a statue emerging from a block of beautiful marble after the master artisan has laboriously chipped away with sharp tools to create a likeness. Along with all of God’s children, I am “hewn” from divine parentage as a beloved child of God. He is shaping me to be in His likeness. The word “Rock” is often used in the scriptures to represent the Savior Jesus Christ. He is what I strive to become. I have taken upon myself His holy name in covenant, and have pledged to always remember Him. In another respect, I am also “hewn” from beloved earthly parents and ancestors. I want to carry on their legacy of courage and faith. I live in a confused world when it comes to identity. Many people look to find themselves in the wrong places. The right place to find one’s real identity is from God, as His beloved child. Real identity comes from recognizing our divine heritage and purpose. These words from a favorite child’s hymn relate to adults as well: “I am a child of God, and He has sent me here. Has given me an earthly home with parents kind and dear. Lead me, guide me, walk beside me; help me find the way. Teach me all that I must do, to live with Him someday.” Isaiah’s words, “Look unto the rock from whence ye are hewn” remind me of who I am and whose I am.
When teens graduate from high school and leave home to taste independence, they enter the dangerous decade of young adulthood. In the thrill of freedom, they often explore forbidden paths which lead to destructive behaviors, habits, and detours. By contrast, what parent could want more than to hear the following words from a son or daughter during these critical years? Here is a short extract from a long list of lessons learned from our oldest grandchild who recently returned from her mission for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. It was hard work. She said she is not the same person that she was 18 months ago.
- I have learned why we need opposition and the trial of our faith.
- I have learned the important role of the Holy Ghost, and why I never want to live without the guidance of the Spirit.
- I have learned the importance of family and what I want my future family to be.
- I have learned what it means to truly love people.
- I have learned that the Atonement of Jesus Christ is infinite and intimate.
- I have learned what Heavenly Father can accomplish through 19 and 20 year- old men and women.
- I think the greatest change in me is that I can say with confidence that I know the truths of the gospel for myself.
- There is a certain peace and joy that comes when you know the truth. It comes from the Savior. That is what continually motivated me to wake up every day with excitement to share it with others.
- I have learned that I have great reason to rejoice!
It is inspiration from God to send missionaries of young adult age to spread the good news of the gospel worldwide. In the process of blessing others, these young adults are shaped in magnificent ways. I am a grandmother with great Reasons to Rejoice!